Core Phrase #2: It Is What It Is.
If this sounds familiar, it’s because (a) I did not make up the phrase – it’s widely used, and (b) the Reality concept here is also about something we also hear a lot about: Acceptance.
Whenever I find myself spinning my wheels about “why me?” and “this shouldn’t be this way”…I realize I’m doing just that…spinning my wheels, and with absolutely no traction. In mud. Or snow.
So I’ve learned to come back to It Is What It Is…and that seems to lead to a more useful thought/question: Now What?
Yep. Acceptance is hard – and the difficulty increases along with the gravity of the situation. But if we don’t (eventually) get there, we can stay lost in the negative emotions that keep us stuck, and we never ever move forward from Pity Party Land. Or the Judgment Zone.
There is an audio preview of this chapter on soundcloud. enjoy!
What is Happier Made Simple really all about?
It’s about little changes that can make a big difference.
Like: the words we use when we talk to ourselves, and to others.
Like: trying some actions even before they feel like second nature- and noticing what happens.
Like: taking small, consistent steps until you reach your goals.
I’m thrilled to let you know that I’ve finished writing the book Happier Made Simple: Choose Your Words. Change Your Life (Shortcuts to more Serenity in a Complicated World)
How? One 30-minute writing session at a time.
The road to publication is in progress, too, and here’s where you come in.
You can get a sneak peek by:
1- joining the new facebook page
2- listening and subscribing to audio messages – link below to one
3 – signing up for my mailing list to stay informed.
Dearest grandbaby Eviana –
Simple Toys bring Best Joys
New Year’s Eve Day has forever gained a new meaning, leaving things like resolutions in the dust of a much more important focus: your birthday.
This year, you will be one whole year old on December 31, and you’ve already changed the world. Well – ours, at least. Your joy, your love, your needs, your snarky sense of fun and play…what an amazing person you already are!
And of course all other parents and grandparents feel the same about their babies. And so it goes, quite beautifully. But watching you grow in this past year has opened the window even wider to some nostalgia for a simpler time – and I hope, as your Grammy, to be a part of making sure these joys are part of your life.
A few truths you have reminded me of:
- People need to play. It’s what you do all day, and something we all need to fit into our lives.
- People love to learn. It’s not a “chore”, it’s a privilege. I see your face light up whenever you learn something new.
- It’s fun to laugh. And your laughter has sparked so many laughs in me. I’ve missed that!
- People want to connect. Differences disappear on the playground. As long as someone else (child or caregiver) is considerate, kind, and caring, there is no color or clothing that can be judged. We need each other. Love does indeed trump divisiveness.